During puberty your child’s emotions may become stronger and more intense.Their mood might change more frequently, quickly and randomly.Your child may have strong emotions that they’ve never experienced before.It’s common for them to feel confused, scared or angry and not know why.They also might be more sensitive and become more easily upset than usual.
What’s behind the mood swings?
Puberty brings a lot of changes for your child not only physically, but socially, mentally and emotionally too. Things that can impact on your child’s mood and the way they feel, include:
Hormones
Lack of sleep
Peer pressure
School demands
Conflict with family
Feeling scared or alone
Stress
Anxiety
Busy schedule
Physical changes
Feeling self-conscious
Increased decision making
Hormones not only change your child’s body on the outside, they create changes inside too!
Key signs of anger
• More movement / restlessness
• Less patience.
• Bad language.
• Less manners.
• More passive aggression.
• Less morality/ obedience
How does personality develop?
According to the famous psychologist Sigmund Freud, children go through a series of psychosexual stages that lead to the development of the adult personality. According to him, success at the age of 1 – 3 years (Anal stage ) is dependent upon the way in which parents approach toilet training.
Inappropriate parental responses can result in negative outcomes. If parents are too lenient, an anal-expulsive personality could develop in which the individual has a messy, wasteful, or destructive personality.
If parents are too strict or begin toilet training too early, an anal-retentive personality develops in which the individual is stringent, orderly, rigid, and obsessive.
Likewise fixity at stages like Oral or Phallic can also cause abnormal talkativeness, desire for stimulants, lasciviousness, fears and lack of confidence etc.
Dealing with such behavioural issues of children can be very difficult for parents to manage.
