PERSPECTIVE
To whom you are friendly with that never matters in the bond. Not surprisedly, it can be anything you are friendly with- a mountain, a tree or a lake or heaven. To human beings, animals or birds, it is common to be friendly with. It is not only friendly but friendliness which is flexible not static. It is a continuous flow, always in motion. Love is lower than friendship of such a kind which feels little before friendliness.
Friendship becomes a relationship and fixed, a valuable asset itself. But, friendliness is more flowing and more fluid. It is actually a state of your being. Yes, an actual being. Friendliness is the purest emotion, free from the smell of biology. The ordinary bond is the same in human beings as it is in other beings. Friendship is an elevated experience. To understand it in simple terms, it is a pure love which has nothing to do with your bodily attraction, instincts or impulses. It is not confused, but, yes, it is difficult to explain because it is only a matter of experience. It is not a mystery for a few but surrounded by a huge mysterious world for all. It unfolds layers of spirituality for those who dive deep into it and helps them to transcend their all traits of animality, a rarest phenomenon.
The philosophy of friendship is neither physiological nor psychological; it is only a spiritual communion living with ‘live souls’, only. The communion overtakes the routes of hatred, hate and hegemony and reaches the climax of the friendliest stage to feel the taste of reunion filled with the sense of victory over the world even being in a state of powerlessness.
With a friend, you can stay in silence for long. Here silence is a blissful communication. Silence, otherwise, looks awkward in other situations. There, it is a question and sign of anger or something more than sulking. Silence becomes heavy, a burden there; it has to be removed to restore the meanings in relationship. So people go on talking necessarily and unnecessarily. They may be right. But in friendliness, silence is craved to get eternity. Here it is absolutely special. Because, the state of acquaintance of souls hardly requires the words to express the self. They share the moments of joy and sorrow from heart to heart not from head to head. Here is a bonding of deep trust. Here is no fear to be closed, no doubt to be confused. Here is no need to be on guard. Again, it is just experience beyond explanation.
After feeling the elevation and passing through the transcendental fathoms, distances don’t matter at all and you are able to share your world with your friend living far away. You turn to be so advanced to feel it easy to find your companion in the sun during the bright days, in moon and the stars during the dark nights to share with. In that unique moment of sharing, space disappears, time disappears too. Time gap is no more a question here. Space gap shrinks too. Then you are suddenly together. If the feeling is from both sides, they triumph beyond imaginations. Physical separation can’t divide or cut the strings of thoughts, feelings and selfless care and concern. Though they treat every bit of things rather subtle things and memories related to them sacred and special, not commonly felt by the people living on earth. That all seems heavenly to others. And, it is not astonishing, if I say, life too is not important here. Because, in deep and the purest communion, you become available to each other even after death. Separation, whatever form, is a meaningless phrase here.
(The author is a regular columnist of Rising Kashmir and can be reached at [email protected])
