Humans are prone to love, hate, anger and angst, etc. The society we are living in at times subjects us to many uncomely and un-homely situations by acting diametrically antipodal and contrary to our expectations, wishes and volitions. Most of the times, we get disgruntled to see that people out there are inclined to inflict some sort of pain or discomfort to us through their obnoxious acts and socially off-color attitude. Confronting such elements, we must maintain our mental poise and control our choler. By doing so, we can save ourselves from the debilitating effects of anger.
A person, who loses his / her temper by remaining susceptible to social prodding, is surely going to sink in the unfathomable sea of social anger and its devastating cross-currents. One must school one’s angry bile. Once our angry self overpowers us we become its slaves. And anger, like jealousy eats out the vitals of a person and drains him emotionally and intellectually dry. So, it is important to control anger before it controls us. No doubt, anger is a healthy human emotion. But once it gets out of control and turns detrimental, it can lead to myriad problems: problems at work place, in one’s personal relationships, and in the overall quality of one’s life.
Besides this, anger looms large on the character of a person and thereby cripples him socially, emotionally, intellectually and economically. It is nicely said by Teal Swan that in modern society, anger is the emotion that is disapproved of the very most. It is so disapproved of that if someone gets angry, people do not see it as emotion that the person is experiencing and expressing. People see it as a character or personality defect instead. Where from this anger stems up? It actually stems up from our emotions like brokenness, hindered desires, helplessness, insult, rejection, and betrayal etc. We must apply logic in such situations instead of emotion of anger or choler.
Do not let anyone to make you angry, for it is said that a person who easily makes you angry becomes your master. In order to keep such people at bay we need not care a fig about them in any context. Once we immediately react to these people, we are actually making ourselves fodder to what they want. Be mindful that getting angry is not going to fix anything, that it won’t make one feel better but rather makes one feel worse.
Psychologists have researched that a person who becomes angry, easily loses his/ her peace of mind and which consequently leads him/her to the point of social ostracization and all that. In comparison to short tempered person, a socially cool and collected person carves a niche in the hearts of other people and thereby wins in every context. Keeping these things in mind, we must not lose one’s cool on petty issues. While having a bad experience or confrontation we must take a chill-pill of tolerance and logic to avoid the head-on collision with it. By doing this, we can save ourselves from social insult and stigma.
Remaining cool and poised in the elemental situations is the key to success in this choleric and angry era. In this era of anger and angst, people have lost control on their nerves and emotions and have thereby perished themselves both socially and psychologically. In order to balance oneself in this anger ridden era, we must keep one’s shirt on; doffing one’s shirt can lead us to social and psychological devastation. Thereby hangs a tale!
(The author works as a Lecturer. He has done PhD and Mphil in English from AMU and has qualified UGC-NET and JKSET for Assistant Professorship. He can be mailed at: [email protected])
