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Never Allow Your Temper to Get the Better of You…!

The sages and poets of Kashmir, custodians of a profound wisdom, understood the cost of succumbing to anger

SANJAY PANDITA
Last updated: December 7, 2024 12:20 am
SANJAY PANDITA
Published: December 7, 2024
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In the silent chambers of the mind, there lies a tempest—temper, a swift and surging force that can, in an instant, transform the gentlest of souls into strangers even to themselves. Temper is an ancient, primal force within us all, one that arises swiftly, fueled by hurt or frustration. It is both familiar and formidable, a part of human nature that can, if left unchecked, scatter the peace within us like leaves in the wind. As wise voices of Kashmir have echoed for centuries, we are cautioned: let temper pass like a shadow, lest it cast darkness over all it touches.

 

The sages and poets of Kashmir, custodians of a profound wisdom, understood the cost of succumbing to anger. Lal Ded, the revered mystic poetess, once reflected, “Don’t be the slave of anger. Anger makes the mind clouded, unable to see the truth.” In her words, we find both warning and wisdom. She saw temper as a veil, one that obscures our vision and prevents us from perceiving the world with clarity. A moment of anger, left unchecked, can cloud the heart, turn friends into foes, and fracture the bonds we cherish most.

 

Temper, when examined closely, is both biological and psychological. It is born from a survival mechanism in the depths of the brain—the amygdala—designed to protect us by propelling us into fight or flight. While this mechanism may have saved lives in ancient times, today it often responds to slights that are far from mortal dangers. Our minds react swiftly, adrenaline rushes, and before we know it, temper has taken hold. But to allow temper to rule is to surrender our higher self to an impulse that, while powerful, is fleeting.

 

Imagine temper as fire: useful for warmth and light, but destructive when unleashed without control. In our relationships, in our work, in the tender spaces we share with others, temper can become a flame that scars and shatters. How often have we seen words, spoken in haste, harm those we love, words that can never be unspoken? Temper is a thief, robbing us of our peace, our wisdom, and our grace. And, as the Kashmiri poet Shams Faqir said, “In a moment of wrath, a lifetime of blessings may burn to ash.”

 

Shams Faqir’s words remind us of the profound cost of anger. A single outburst, a moment of unbridled temper, can undo years of trust, affection, and understanding. Friendships built over decades can dissolve in an instant, and once shattered, trust is difficult to restore. Temper, in this way, is both forceful and fragile, powerful in its destruction, yet without substance of its own—it is a reaction, a fleeting impulse that does not define us unless we choose to let it.

 

But what then, is the antidote to temper? How do we learn to live above its influence? The answer lies in patience, a virtue celebrated by the sages of Kashmir. Nund Rishi, a revered saint, counseled, “Be patient and forbear; anger will turn into kindness if nurtured with silence.” His words carry the essence of restraint. Patience, like a still lake, cools the fire of anger, transforming it into calm understanding. Silence, in moments of rage, becomes a powerful ally, allowing us to pause and let the initial surge of temper dissipate.

 

To cultivate this patience, we turn to the practice of mindfulness. In being present, we observe our own inner workings; the way temper rises and subsides like waves. This awareness is not merely the recognition of anger; it is an understanding of its roots, a deep inquiry into why we feel as we do. When anger stirs, we can pause, breathe, and watch it pass without allowing it to shape our actions. Breath becomes a powerful tool here, calming our nervous system, grounding us in the present moment, reminding us that temper, though intense, is transient.

 

Empathy, too, serves as a salve against temper. To see the world through another’s eyes, to understand their pains and struggles, is to recognize our shared humanity. Empathy softens our anger, transforming it into compassion. The poet Mahjoor captures this sentiment beautifully when he writes, “The world becomes smaller when you see only your pain; look at others, and you will find peace.” By expanding our view to include others’ experiences, our own anger often feels less significant, less consuming.

 

For those seeking to truly master temper, compassion becomes not only a method but a guiding light. Compassion teaches us to treat each soul with tenderness, to recognize that each heart carries burdens of its own. In the presence of compassion, temper cannot thrive, for we are reminded that anger isolates us, while compassion brings us closer to the warmth of human connection.

 

In this journey to master temper, we must also learn to forgive ourselves. Every person has moments of weakness, times when temper gets the better of them. But as we grow, as we cultivate mindfulness, patience, and compassion, we learn to be gentler with ourselves and others. The Kashmiri mystic poet Rupa Bhavani once said, “To forgive is to embrace your own peace.” When we forgive ourselves for our lapses, we make space for growth, allowing the lessons of each moment to shape us into kinder, calmer beings.

 

The path of temperance, of mastering temper, is one of resilience. We stumble, we pause, we reflect, and in doing so, we become stronger. To live without allowing temper to rule us is to walk the path of wisdom, to choose clarity over chaos, love over fury. In moments of silence, we find our true strength, our ability to face the storm within without surrendering to it.

 

In the end, as the Kashmiri poetess Habba Khatoon reminds us, “The river flows gently when the heart is free from anger.” This gentle flow, this quiet harmony, is the life we cultivate when we resist temper. Temper may come, but we let it pass, honoring instead the deeper currents of patience, understanding, and love that flow within us. And as we walk this path, we find that temper, though fierce, is only a shadow—one that fades as we step into the light of our truest selves.

 

(Author is a Columnist and can be reached at: [email protected])

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