PERSPECTIVE
The pervasive culture of conventional exams pushes every student to vie for the top spot, leading to unbearable pressure for both students and parents alike. The rat race is so rampant that every student strives his hardest to be at first rank, that is only one in each class. There are indeed push factors from the parents and family behind this crazy mentality in which both- wards and parents live under brain bursting pressure which is sure to tell upon their health and habits. No one seems to be contended at number second. In most cases, this ruins the social relations among the batch mates, peers, relatives and creates cramps at larger levels in society as well.
Students struggle with vast amounts of subject material and the pressure to excel, leading to anxiety and strain. This weird mentality, often seen as a measure of terror rather than true achievement, is exacerbated by societal pressures and unrealistic expectations. While experts call for systemic change and reforms like those envisioned in PM Narendra Modi’s inspiring Pareeksha Pe Charcha mega annual programme and NEP-2020, a shift in societal attitudes is slow. Until then, practical and homemade solutions are needed. Parents, especially, must provide crucial support to their children during exam periods, and teachers should offer institutional counseling. While broader change is necessary, immediate, family-level remedies and support are essential in the current climate.
Exams can be a stressful time for children, and it’s natural for parents to feel anxious too. However, it’s important to remember that children are very perceptive and can pick up on their parents’ anxieties. This can add unnecessary pressure, hindering their performance. As a family, particularly parents, it’s crucial to provide a supportive and calming environment during this period.
Reflect and adapt
Think back to your own experiences with exams. What helped you? What made things worse? Use these experiences to guide your interactions with your child. Remember that every child is different, so what worked for you might not work for them. Be adaptable and focus on what your child needs to feel confident and prepared.
Manage your own stress
Children often mirror their parents’ emotions. If you are stressed, they are likely to feel stressed too. Find healthy ways to manage your own anxiety, such as exercise, prayers or spending time with people and nature. This will not only benefit you but also create a peaceful atmosphere for your child.
Facilitate, don’t dictate
Help your child create a realistic study plan, breaking down their workload into manageable chunks. Ensure they have enough time for social activities and relaxation. A balanced schedule is key to maintaining well-being and preventing burnout.
Open dialogue
Keep an eye out for any changes in your child’s behaviour. If you notice they are struggling, initiate a conversation and dialogue. Let them know you are there for them and offer your support. Sometimes, just listening and acknowledging their feelings can make a world of difference.
Sleep well and eat good
Ensure your child maintains a healthy diet and gets enough sleep. Exam pressure can often lead to unhealthy eating habits and late night sleeping, which can negatively impact their performance. Encourage them to eat nutritious meals and establish a regular sleep schedule. Leaving a good diet and sleep can’t allow your child to be a distinctive one.
Beyond the exam
Remember that exams are just one aspect of your child’s life. Their worth is not defined by their scores. Focus on developing their resilience, problem-solving skills, and overall well-being. These life skills serve them well throughout their lives, regardless of exam results.
Avoid drone or helicopter parenting
Most importantly, don’t hover over your child like a drone or helicopter with too much demand at this time as any weird argument will be entirely counterproductive for you, your child and your “dream figures” in exams. Therefore, make sure that your child knows you are there to support them unconditionally regardless of the exam results.
Conclusion
We often see children thrive under the care of simple, unlettered parents who offer unconditional love and support. Let’s learn wisdom from their simplicity. Caring for your child is essential, and being mindful of their career is a responsibility. However, avoid trying to control their destiny. Focus on love, support, and guidance, not playing the role of God in their lives.
(The author is a columnist of Rising Kashmir and can be reached at: [email protected])
