Jealousy is a complex and destructive emotion characterized by feelings of insecurity, fear, and envy over a perceived threat to a valued relationship or possession. While jealousy is a natural human response, its adverse effects on basic human relationships and society are profound. It not only sows discord and feelings of disunity among people but also fosters hatred and division within individuals and communities. Understanding the basis of jealousy is essential in order to foster unity and harmony in the society.
Jealousy as an undesirable dark emotion does not only poison relationships, leading to mistrust, resentment, and breakdown of the established connections but it also leads to irrational suspicion and impolite behavior towards others. These negative behaviors undermine the foundation of trust essential for healthy relationships. Over time, the constant stress and emotional strain caused by jealousy can erode affection and respect, pushing people towards disunity and hatred. In a broader social context, jealousy can lead to competition and animosity among groups. When individuals or communities envy the success, wealth, or status of others, it can result in social fragmentation. It often leads to “us versus them” mentality, fostering hostility and reducing social cohesion. Jealousy-driven competition can also spur unethical behavior, as people might resort to deceit or sabotage to undermine those they envy.
Being Muslims it is imperative for us to understand the essence of unity and brotherhood to counter such negative feelings which lead to Jealousy and hatred. Islamic teachings provide a clear stance on jealousy, emphasizing its detrimental effects and advocating for personal contentment and gratitude. Holy Qur’an and Hadiths explicitly warn against the dangers of envy. In Surah Al-Falaq (113:5), Muslims are taught to seek refuge from the envious when they practice envy. The Prophet Muhammad (SAW) also said, “Do not be jealous of each other, and do not hate each other, and do not turn away from each other, but rather be servants of Allah as brothers” (Sahih Muslim).
Islam encourages Muslims to cultivate a sense of satisfaction with what they have and to celebrate others’ successes without envy. The concept of contentment is fundamental in Islamic ethics, urging believers to appreciate their blessings and trust in Almighty Allah’s wisdom. By focusing on gratitude and avoiding comparisons with others, Muslims can protect their hearts from the corrosive effects of jealousy. With utter disregard to all the basic human ethics and the Islamic teachings, it has been seen on many instances that educated and well qualified people resort to jealousy and negative behavior. Educated individuals have a critical role in addressing and mitigating jealousy within society. Through awareness and understanding, educated people can recognize the signs of jealousy and take proactive steps to manage their emotions constructively.
Teachers, in particular, bear a significant responsibility in this regard. By incorporating lessons on the ill effects of jealousy and the importance of unity, brotherhood, and love into the curriculum, educators can shape young minds to value cooperation over competition. Teaching students about emotional intelligence, including the management of jealousy, can foster a more empathetic and cohesive society. Educators should emphasize the virtues of contentment, gratitude, and mutual support, drawing on diverse cultural and religious perspectives to enrich students’ understanding. By promoting these values, schools can become breeding grounds for future generations who prioritize collective well-being over individual rivalry.
Needless to highlight that Jealousy is a potent emotion with the capacity to damage relationships and divide societies. Its adverse effects, however, can be mitigated through understanding, education, and the promotion of positive values. The Islamic perspective on jealousy highlights the importance of contentment and gratitude, offering valuable guidance for managing envy. By educating individuals, especially the young, about the destructive nature of jealousy and fostering a culture of unity, brotherhood, and love, we can build a more harmonious and cohesive society.
(Author is a freelance writer, columnist and academician and can be reached at [email protected])
