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October 01, 2020 01:00:00 | Mohammad Hussain Khan

Dowry system : A social evil

It is really tragic that in a progressive world of today, the evil of dowry continues to exist in all its horrid forms

 

 

The system of dowry must be as old as institution of marriage itself. It must also have been a universal practice. In a way, there is nothing wrong in giving voluntarily gifts to the girl by her parents, relatives and friends out of sheer love, concern and affection at the time of her marriage.

Moreover all the parents want to give some presents to their daughter when she is leaving their home to start life afresh and there is nothing bad or unusual about it. It is a simple token of life that will later on remind the girl of her near and dear ones; symbols of their some sentiments that will revive her old memories with sweet remembrances that she will cherish throughout her life.

But it is very unfortunate that as time went by this innocent practice has taken a devilish form almost everywhere in our society at large. As such dowry has come to be considered an evil, a curse that makes life miserable. Beg, borrow or steal hardly matters but the parents must give a good dowry to their daughters to make a successful marriage.

Indeed, a situation has emerged in the society wherein dowry payments are taken as symbols of high esteem and are not deemed as illegal or unethical or seen with disapproval by the people in society. Even the people, who have experienced the pinch of this evil system in the marriage of their daughters, remain keen to get dowry for their sons.

It is said that marriages are made in heaven and celebrated on earth. But then how can heavenly made marriages meet such horrible treatment and such a hellish end! The very thought of the treatment given to dowry victims sends shivers through the spine.

What a mockery of marriage! The bride of yesterday lies today dead on the floor or soon to be dragged either to the kitchen where her clothes catch fire, or to be taken to the bathroom where she puts kerosene on her clothes and sets them on fire or to be thrown down from the roof of the house.

Gone are the days when we used to say that it takes two to make marriage a success and only one to make it a failure. But today the drama of success or failure is conditioned to meet the hydra headed demands of the dowry seekers. It is really tragic that in a progressive world of today, the evil of dowry continues to exist in all its horrid forms. Many homes are broken and several families are driven to ruin only because they are too poor to afford a rich dowry.

Previously in the selection of the bride, her family background, her personal tastes, talents, education etc. used to be the primary considerations. But now dowry is the first and the last, rather the only consideration. It seems as if in the marriage market the boys are put to an auction and anybody who bids the highest gets him.

Under these circumstances, no wonder that some parents have to incur heavy debt for giving dowry. At times, they remain under debt for the whole of their life. Sometimes, the girl’s parents fail to raise the necessary funds of marriage.

Out of sheer disgust and despair they commit suicide. Not only this, seeing their parents sad and depressed because of dowry, many of the daughters also commit suicide, thus leaving the parents strained and shattered for the rest of their life.

Certain girls even choose to remain unmarried as they never want to be the victims of this nuisance. Nothing surprising that even today the birth of the daughter is never considered a lucky charm.

No doubt, in the recent past government and the concerned authorities have taken some anti-dowry steps. In some states, dowry has been made a cognizable offence. But merely making laws cannot serve the purpose till the people are really ready to act accordingly. As such we have to create a social setup which condemns giving and taking of dowry.

Dowry givers and dowry seekers should be socially boycotted. The government should take strict measures to enforce the law in the right spirit. Nobody should be allowed to violate the law of the land. Unnecessary expenses should be cut down and the marriage rites should be performed with less pomp and show.

Above all a strong public opinion has to be created in the society against dowry. The social reformers must provide the lead. The educational institutions should awaken the desired spirit among the youth.

Mass media should be used efficiently to create anti-dowry attitude in the people. There is no doubt that the custom is heartless. They dowry system has to go. Anybody who sets dowry a condition for marriage discredits his education and dishonors womanhood.

Khanhussain.ang@gmail.com

 

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October 01, 2020 01:00:00 | Mohammad Hussain Khan

Dowry system : A social evil

It is really tragic that in a progressive world of today, the evil of dowry continues to exist in all its horrid forms

 

 

              

The system of dowry must be as old as institution of marriage itself. It must also have been a universal practice. In a way, there is nothing wrong in giving voluntarily gifts to the girl by her parents, relatives and friends out of sheer love, concern and affection at the time of her marriage.

Moreover all the parents want to give some presents to their daughter when she is leaving their home to start life afresh and there is nothing bad or unusual about it. It is a simple token of life that will later on remind the girl of her near and dear ones; symbols of their some sentiments that will revive her old memories with sweet remembrances that she will cherish throughout her life.

But it is very unfortunate that as time went by this innocent practice has taken a devilish form almost everywhere in our society at large. As such dowry has come to be considered an evil, a curse that makes life miserable. Beg, borrow or steal hardly matters but the parents must give a good dowry to their daughters to make a successful marriage.

Indeed, a situation has emerged in the society wherein dowry payments are taken as symbols of high esteem and are not deemed as illegal or unethical or seen with disapproval by the people in society. Even the people, who have experienced the pinch of this evil system in the marriage of their daughters, remain keen to get dowry for their sons.

It is said that marriages are made in heaven and celebrated on earth. But then how can heavenly made marriages meet such horrible treatment and such a hellish end! The very thought of the treatment given to dowry victims sends shivers through the spine.

What a mockery of marriage! The bride of yesterday lies today dead on the floor or soon to be dragged either to the kitchen where her clothes catch fire, or to be taken to the bathroom where she puts kerosene on her clothes and sets them on fire or to be thrown down from the roof of the house.

Gone are the days when we used to say that it takes two to make marriage a success and only one to make it a failure. But today the drama of success or failure is conditioned to meet the hydra headed demands of the dowry seekers. It is really tragic that in a progressive world of today, the evil of dowry continues to exist in all its horrid forms. Many homes are broken and several families are driven to ruin only because they are too poor to afford a rich dowry.

Previously in the selection of the bride, her family background, her personal tastes, talents, education etc. used to be the primary considerations. But now dowry is the first and the last, rather the only consideration. It seems as if in the marriage market the boys are put to an auction and anybody who bids the highest gets him.

Under these circumstances, no wonder that some parents have to incur heavy debt for giving dowry. At times, they remain under debt for the whole of their life. Sometimes, the girl’s parents fail to raise the necessary funds of marriage.

Out of sheer disgust and despair they commit suicide. Not only this, seeing their parents sad and depressed because of dowry, many of the daughters also commit suicide, thus leaving the parents strained and shattered for the rest of their life.

Certain girls even choose to remain unmarried as they never want to be the victims of this nuisance. Nothing surprising that even today the birth of the daughter is never considered a lucky charm.

No doubt, in the recent past government and the concerned authorities have taken some anti-dowry steps. In some states, dowry has been made a cognizable offence. But merely making laws cannot serve the purpose till the people are really ready to act accordingly. As such we have to create a social setup which condemns giving and taking of dowry.

Dowry givers and dowry seekers should be socially boycotted. The government should take strict measures to enforce the law in the right spirit. Nobody should be allowed to violate the law of the land. Unnecessary expenses should be cut down and the marriage rites should be performed with less pomp and show.

Above all a strong public opinion has to be created in the society against dowry. The social reformers must provide the lead. The educational institutions should awaken the desired spirit among the youth.

Mass media should be used efficiently to create anti-dowry attitude in the people. There is no doubt that the custom is heartless. They dowry system has to go. Anybody who sets dowry a condition for marriage discredits his education and dishonors womanhood.

Khanhussain.ang@gmail.com