In celebration of friendship
Let this winter be the beginning of celebrating our friendships. If there are friends who we feel we may be taking for granted lets change that and make them feel loved and important to us
Post by on Sunday, December 19, 2021
A few days ago I was at a friend’s wedding. Few friends had come together to celebrate. Everyone seemed to be having good time and there was great fun. It was while I was surrounded by my friends that I suddenly realized how important they are to me. It was only at that moment did I appreciate their extreme significance in my life. When we were young our parent and family members always encouraged us to make friends. After first day in school back home we are asked: did you make any friends?
We are advised to play with other children and be nice to them. Perhaps when we are young it was about how many friends we had and how popular we were among them. Our birthday parties were a success depending up on how many friends turned up.
However, it is only now that I am able to understand the deeper meaning of friendship. While many of us may feel the primary reason for having links is for social interaction and entertainment, if we look more closely to what it means we will realize that the reasons go way beyond that. Friendship is not only about spending time with like-minded people so that one doesn’t get bored on a Saturday evening; its purpose far more meaningful. It is about love and understanding. It stretches beyond family relationship and lends us a support that is different. It is about a different kind of love.
Without families we are sometime wary about discussing our fears or difficulties thinking that we may worry our parents and siblings, but with friends often it is easier to discuss our feelings, as there remains a space that is personal yet with fewer expectations. It is a space that is built on sharing—sharing of our joys and sorrows, of discussion and reasoning and many things that urge us to open our hearts to other.
It is in friendship that we also learn to be less judgmental and to be accepting of other people’s differences and eccentricities and to be open loving our friends even if they don’t think like us or share our philosophies. As importantly friendship teaches us to be helpful.
To give support and a listening ear to our mates, to be there for them in time of need or celebration, and to be part of their lives as a person that gives them comfort and who is able to understand and accept them for who they are.
Let this winter be the beginning of celebrating our friendships. If there are friends who we feel we may be taking for granted lets change that and make them feel loved and important to us. More so as a more challenging proposition let us reach out to someone who has been a dear friend to us but for whatever reason we have lost touch with. It is time to put aside out differences and make that phone call or write a letter or email to that special someone. In celebration of our friendship
(Author is Architect, Educator and Columnist)