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Be kind to your parents

Parents have always been role models for their children. So teach your kids how true are you with your parents and how they have to be

Post by on Saturday, October 23, 2021

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 Everyone in our life stumble upon a situation when a person is lend a hand by someone or might have tried to be of assistance to others. It is called pro-social behavior. It defines helping nature with no immediate benefits to help but an unfathomable satisfaction within. Pro-social behavior being common in social life mostly gets ignored in personal life.

Did you ever do such an act which can be categorized as pro-social behavior and may have benefited someone strange who is not able to pay it back? Definitely there will be some incidents which make you proud of yourself.  A pro-social behavior involves empathy- capacity of an individual to feel the emotional state of others, feeling sympathetic towards people and understand their perspective. Empathy is more important than sympathy for it is a selfless care for a stranger who cannot pay it back. This unselfish behaviour lends a hand to others without any extrinsic reason.

Unconditional concern for a stranger brings a sentiment called ‘I can feel your pain’. The purpose of explaining the prosocial behavior is that humans are bestowed with the competence to help strangers who are in need. Then what about those old parents who are left on the mercy of Almighty who deserve sympathy of their kids.

Old age is not a curse, but for some unfortunate souls it does become one. When we were inside the womb of our mother, did she ever utter a word against us even though she was under tremendous pain at times? Slowly a day came when she started feeling us inside, she started dreaming about us. Has any mother ever complained of the pain she goes through while carrying her child? The answer is obviously no. Then in our childhood, parents acceded to all our demands, both fair as well as unfair. No matter whether it is a toy or admission in high quality school, we got everything. Our parents always fulfilled our wishes even sacrificing their own wishes.  

But are we doing justice with them in their old age? When a mother never leave us in childhood then why she deserve to be apart from us in her old age. When we started crawling and took our first step, our parents held our hands. Today when they need our help, we leave them. A father was a wise man when we were in our teens. He used to take our decisions and decide what we should do and not. But now, we don’t even bother to ask them. They don’t usually need financial assistance; all they need is little care and affection. A special status in family matters.

They might not give us anything materialistic but something spiritual which is above everything and will enhance our well-being. Parents have always been role models for their children. So teach your kids how true are you with your parents and how they have to be.

Be the exemplar for the society and teach a lesson to children how they have to be with their parents. Islam teaches us that after Allah (SWT) and His Messenger, only worth to unconditional love, care; affection and respect are our parents. A famous hadith which may here justify how much our parents should be important for us was narrated by Ibn 'Umar (RA):
Allah's Apostle said, "While three persons were traveling, they were overtaken by rain and they took shelter in a cave in a mountain. A big rock fell from the mountain over the mouth of the cave and blocked it. They said to each other. 'Think of such good (righteous) deeds which, you did for Allah's sake only, and invoke Allah by giving reference to those deeds so that Allah may relieve you from your difficulty. One of them said, 'O Allah! I had my parents who were very old and I had small children for whose sake I used to work as a shepherd. When I returned to them at night and milked (the sheep), I used to start giving the milk to my parents first before giving to my children. And one day I went far away in search of a grazing place (for my sheep), and didn't return home till late at night and found that my parents had slept. I milked (my livestock) as usual and brought the milk vessel and stood at their heads, and I disliked to wake them up from their sleep, and I also disliked to give the milk to my children before my parents though my children were crying (from hunger) at my feet [Bukhari :: Book 8 :: Volume 73 :: Hadith 5 ] .
Be kind to parents it will bring happiness of this world and world hereafter. They are the doors to heaven so gain this heaven on earth.

(Author is a Columnist, Researcher and Social activist) 

 

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