Aggression: Step in and stop it immediately
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Aggression: Step in and stop it immediately

Post by on Sunday, December 19, 2021

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We all get angry in our life towards our family member, coworker, or someone unknown which most of the time is a reaction to any provocation or stimulus and every one of us has the capability to manage this anger and aggression which actually is very important for our own wellbeing and peace of mind. If one is not able to manage anger properly it may lead to aggression and finally result in violence.

Aggression refers to a range of behaviors that can result in both physical and psychological harm to yourself, others, or objects in the environment. Aggression centers on hurting another person either physically or mentally and is an important social issue. Persons who behave aggressively may harm not only themselves, but also their families, their communities and society at large.

Research shows us that people with serious aggression problems are more likely to engage in acts of violence. If someone in your life is behaving aggressively, it's important to protect him/her and yourself.  Try to know the cause and help them to manage aggression.

Aggression may be of various types such as:

  • Physical Aggression: It includes beating, hitting, kicking, or stabbing another person. Damaging property is also a form of physical aggression.
  • Verbal Aggression: It may include mocking, name-calling, and yelling.
  • Relational Aggression: This is intended to harm another person's relationships. This can include spreading rumors and telling lies about someone else.

With the progressively increasing number of internet users and especially in the last 2 years when COVID19 has promoted internet and social media use, a new form of aggression has been seen in social media platforms also called cyber bullying.

Why do people show Aggression?

  • To express anger or hostility.
  • To assert dominance.
  • Too intimidating or threatening.
  • To achieve a goal.
  • To express possession.
  • To respond to fear.
  • To react to pain.
  • To compete with others.

 

Causes of aggression

·        Imbalances in certain hormones.

·        Family environment / family instability.

·        Childhood trauma.

·        Several mental health conditions.

·        Self-defense.

·        Being placed in a stressful situation.

·        Lack of routine.

·        Extreme frustration or anger.

·        Inadequate speech development.

·        Over-stimulation.

·        Exhaustion.

·        Lack of adult supervision.

·        Mirroring the aggressive behaviors of other children around them.

·        Drug Abuse.

·        Brain structure lesions.

·        Discipline that is too harsh, too lenient or inconsistent.

·        Lack of appropriate supervision.

·        Neglect  or abuse.

·        Living in conditions that are economically or socially disadvantaged.

·        Living in an unsafe neighborhood (e.g., with gangs, drug dealing and other criminal activities).

·        Being associated with gangs.

·        Attending a poorly run or unsafe school.

·        Teens having friends who behave aggressively.

·        Watching a lot of television/ smart gadgets.

 

How to manage aggression?

·        Control your body language and tone of voice.

·        Stay calm.

·        Focus on letting the person know that you care about him or her.

·        When a young person is angry, ask the bystanders watching to leave.

·        Don’t give warnings about consequences.

·        Don’t tell the person who is angry that you always do this. Avoid making generalizations.

·        Talk to the person after his/her aggression is over.

·        Make sure that everyone is safe.

Try not to take it personally 

 

·      Help them break the pattern.

·      Be aware of your own responses and reactions to conflict. 

·      Acknowledge their feelings.

·      Try to find the root of the anger. 

·      Help them develop self-strategies. 

·      Give them space. 

·      Get support for yourself. 

 

How can parents help their children?

·        When your child is angry, stay calm. Listen to them. 

 

·        When your child gives in tantrums anywhere for any demand, don’t give in and buy it. This is rewarding, and reinforces the inappropriate behavior.

·        Give reward to your child on good behaviour.

·        Help them to express themselves.

·        Know your child’s patterns and identify triggers.

·        Give them space.

·        Be clear. 

·        Talk to their school. 

·        Avoid using violence towards your teen. 

·        Seek professional help if needed.

·        Be prepared that children will sometimes have difficulty staying in charge of their behavior. 

·        Teach children how to recognize and manage the feelings and actions that lead to unsafe behavior.

·        Be a role model. 

·        Avoid spanking. 

·        Be patient; learning takes time. 

Learning how to stop aggression, it takes a little know-how and practice to master. Be a good teacher, parent and a friend, the other side will reciprocate the same.