While every relationship has its ups and downs, it is claimed that a toxic relationship is persistently unpleasant and tiring for all involved, to the point where negative times dominate happy ones.
According to Dr. Kristen Fuller, a California-based family care specialist who specialises in mental health,toxic relationships are cognitively, emotionally, and possibly physically detrimental to one or both partners.
In all of our connections, toxic partnerships can exist. It could be a family member, a romantic partner, a friend or a co-worker. It's as vital to understand how your relationships effect your mental, emotional, and physical well-being as it is to understand how you might affect the relationships around you.
A successful partnership should give you the confidence to take responsibilities outside of your relationship. Every relationship has its share of drama, but if yours is draining more energy than it is providing, it may be time to reconsider.
It's important to emphasise that a poisonous relationship is not the same as abuse. In an abusive relationship, one person tries to control the other by using psychological techniques, physical assault, verbal abuse or a mix of these. Abusive relationships are always the abuser's fault, and never the victim's.
It's difficult to admit that our actions may be causing or contributing to a poisonous relationship. Accountability, on the other hand, is the only way to progress. It's preferable to confront our own destructive patterns than to remain blissfully ignorant, which makes our relationships less happy.
There are some warning signs which indicate that the relationship is toxic such as love bombing may appear to be a blossoming and exciting start to a new relationship, but if your partner or acquaintance is always in contact with you and argues or panics when they can't reach you, you may be in a toxic relationship.
In a relationship, some jealousy is natural, but extreme jealousy is an indication of a poisonous relationship. A healthy relationship necessitates trust, whereas jealousy implies lack of it. This could take the form of this individual gaining access to your phone or social media accounts, or arguing with you about previous relationships. Love bombing is frequently followed by intense jealousy.
You may be in a toxic relationship if you detect a sense of competitiveness in the relationship or if there is a repeated pattern of bringing up old problems during current concerns. Some topics are intertwined, but debates shouldn't necessitate recalling past errors that have little to do with the current topic.
Choosing to be in a healthy relationship entails accepting the person for who they are, even their faults in the past. This relationship may not be suited for you if this feels impossible. You are not always accountable for how someone feels.
You should reassess your connection if you feel attacked or lash out while this individual is having a rough day. This pattern implies that the other person's emotional well-being is in charge of your life, which can lead to resentment.
It's crucial to realise that no one can know how we're feeling, what we are thinking, or what we require emotionally.Contempt in a relationship could be a more subtle indicator of toxicity.
Eye rolling, sarcasm, or any other type of disregard of your feelings or input might all be signs of this. If you notice a pattern of contempt from this individual, it indicates a lack of respect for you, and respect is a crucial component of all healthy relationships.
In a good partnership, communication is crucial. It is not necessary to dispute or flee while discussing difficult topics and critical matters. If you're scared to bring up certain topics for fear of this individual becoming silent or leaving, this person may be stonewalling.
Walking on eggshells to avoid triggering the other person can feel like walking on eggshells in a toxic relationship.
Re-evaluate your relationship if your physical, mental, and/or emotional boundaries are not respected. Your limits are valid and should be respected in all relationships since you are an individual. This person may dismiss your boundary violations as a joke.
They can tell you to "relax" or "slow down." It's possible that this isn't the right relationship for you. Dependence can take various forms, including being reliant on you for resources such as time, money, or attention. While being in a relationship implies a connection, you should both feel at ease as separate entities. This can be a sign of dependency if you feel obligated to maintain things ideal for them out of concern that they will fall apart.
It's difficult to admit that you're the toxic one or that you were a part of a poisonous dynamic with someone else. Internalizing feelings of guilt or worthlessness might lead to the belief that you are a bad person or a bad partner. You might even be concerned that you won't be able to maintain healthy relationships in the future. But that isn't the case: we all deserve healthy relationships, and we can all improve our relationship practises.
While accepting responsibility for previous toxic actions can be difficult, it should also provide hope. Taking a daring first step toward a happier and healthier future is facing your past.